Every one of us has undergone and can be experience painful situation. This scenario is what we are trying to erase in our mind to protect our emotions and self esteem. It is a kind of situation wherein it gives depression to us and sometimes, a suicidal feeling. This is what we called our “dark” side. It is really difficult to resolve and needs one’s awareness through self. And self awareness is not easy to practice. It requires time. Since it takes longer, how we can resolve conflicts so we won’t feel alone hence lowers self esteem. You can resolve it on own, however we must not “closed” the door to others who want to help us. If you cannot do it, try to look for life coaches. You just need to spend a little amount in paying their life coaching fees, but I tell you, they have capability to resolve conflicts like yours.